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Loving Advice for My 20-Something Self, 20 Years Later

I recently dug into my parent’s old VHS tapes in Wisconsin and found some footage of a different life when I was in my early twenties.  It was so surreal after not seeing it for so long.  I used to be a model while in college in Chicago and was often booked for Oprah or tv news segments.  It appeared that I was overflowing with confidence, but it was an intense and exciting time of discovery, insecurity, and “fake it till you make it” mentality.  Looking back at that young woman and all of the life she had to live -remembering all of the uncertainty and the insane hustle that kept her up at night.  A heart so open and impressionable – the world was my playground but I hadn’t yet discovered myself.  

If I could give that young woman some advice, here it is:

Never ignore your intuition, but pick and choose strategically when to act on it.

 

There is a reason why he didn’t make your relationship clear to you, protect your heart.

 

A friend will never check every box on the list.  Allow people to come into your life and appreciate the purpose they hold, but don’t expect someone to fill every category.

 

Stop grasping so tightly and focus on the elements you can control.

 

Beauty and beautiful things are fleeting.  They come and go.

 

Be aware of all of your gifts and ambitions and don’t dim them for anyone.

 

Get razor sharp focus for the things you want in order to manifest them.

 

Don’t get stuck on who you were 10 years ago.  Consider new identities and definitions and dare yourself to get out of your comfort zone.

 

We all have hidden scripts.  Some are toxic and so was the person that made you believe them.  Recognize old scripts and try to write new ones.

 

Don’t assume that the people you bring into your life were raised with the same values and morals that you were. Quietly observe and assess.

 

When you put yourself in a position where you are always waiting to be chosen, you let others define your worth.

 

Great people go to therapy.  Your mind can be conditioned like your muscles at the gym.

 

Hold on tight to the interests you had when you were young.  You will find that they will bring you joy when you’re older and needing some enlightenment.

 

Teach people how to treat you.

 

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